One of the many things that has been on my mind for quite, I say QUITE some time (several years to be quite honest) is>>
de-cluttering...or.......more to the point>>>
It is bad enough that we spend our money on items that we don't use or wear. But rather than acknowledging our mistakes, we compound them by hanging on to these items, making space for them in our homes and psyches, and allowing them to weigh us down from above or pull us down from below. We need, instead, to be freeing ourselves from excess baggage so that we can make space in our lives for the new and the wonderful—for what we really need and truly will use. And we have to be firm in our resolve to clean and clear and actually dispose of or donate those items that haven't seen the light of day in ages and for a very good reason. As with relationships we have shed in the past, these things may look good in hindsight, but when you closely examine them without the rose-colored glasses, you see that, like those old relationships, the love of these things ended for very good reasons.
The junk in your attic and basement—and this does not refer to old family photos or other memorabilia of actual value to you financially or nostalgically, but the honest-to-goodnessjunk—needs to go, and the sooner the better. The best proof of this may be if you are reading this chapter, seeing yourself in it, and feeling guilty that you haven't done what you know you need to do. Think of this chapter as your affirmation—your emotional support in helping to give you the strength you will need, the courage of your convictions, in finally, for once and for all, tackling those piles of unused, unwanted things in your attic and basement and freeingyourself from them forever! This is your battle cry, your Declaration of Independence. Repeat the following, “I (your name) WILL dispose of the items in my basement and attic that I no longer use or have any intention of using ever again!” There. Feel better? Now, let's look at the problem in greater detail. END OF ARTICLE
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I have some difficulty in 'letting go' of stuff....
Having been married 43 years, we have accumulated a lot of our own 'stuff' and then inherited a good bit more from passing family members. Some of these things go back quite far...1700s as family heirlooms. Other things are some of what we obtained while living a number of years overseas.
A lot of what we are 'about', is connected to family and home....which is where we spend of lot of time doing hobbies and crafts, gardening, as well as maintaining our home where we spend that time with our children, my mother who resides with us and with our pets.
Both my husband and I as part of the aging process, have 'slowed down' with accomplishing some of our interests here at home and have been slow to admit that. Each of us thinks the other has certain 'things' that can be ditched...either by selling, giving away or trashing,,,but that gets touchy....and tends to lead to hurt feelings when we disagree as to the items that need to be sorted out and dealt with.
and so it goes...
until my diagnoses that is several weeks ago.
Now, I look at things in somewhat a different sort of light, and I am sure my husband Brent does also.
Before, I sort of felt as though there was no time constraint of accomplishing something I really was not wanting to do. I would probably feel that way yet today, except I am WELL aware, I my physical changes....
Tasks I thought were simple to accomplish....are not nearly as easy now and I just simply get too tired too quickly to care a lot of the time.
I have realized, it is more important to me for the time being, to maintain control over decisions concerning my 'stuff'.....so I have decided it is time for me to become active in this endeavor of downsizing and de-cluttering aka letting go.
The reasons WHY, I think are already obvious to anyone who has an illness like ALS or another serious illness.
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